Sexting…Is It All About Power?

We conducted an online psychological survey that investigated sexting behaviors and power. We found that 66% of the group sexted. A description of the study and the complete results are presented here. Sexting is an important topic because it is a risky behavior that may endanger lives. However, it is also a widespread phenomenon that is prevalent among people between the ages of 13-26; namely those who have grown up with digital technology.  [full article]

Vulture Culture: How We Encourage Bullying

Our vulture culture emphasizes a winner/loser mentality that encourages dominance and aggression. Extreme bullying, often using sexual slurs such as "gay, fag, slut and whore," is becoming a common experience for students of all ages, and in particular, for children aged 11-13. Bullying will stop when individuals become assertive and protect themselves; when bystanders are proactive and protect victims, and when schools create a community of respect.   [full article]

Profile of a Victim

The most powerful teaching method is calledmirroring. Sometimes parents, themselves, are actually victims, or feel victimized, and act that way. They talk about how they have been taken advantage of, how things are not fair, and how they have been bullied.

All kids mimic what their parents do. Therefore, they sometimes mimic their parents' victim posture.  [full article]

How Are Bullies Created?

Many people think that bullies are either insecure or have low self-esteem. Recent research shows that some bullies may fit this description, but many bullies have high self-esteem.

The bully leads via intimidation. People follow to avoid being victimized.
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How to Stop Being a Victim

In order to change a behavior one has to be committed to the change. It takes time, effort and discomfort to establish a new pattern, a new way to respond.

Change the way you think:

This is the most important change. You need to stop thinking like a victim.
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Stop Yelling: Improve Behavior

All parents want their children to be “well-behaved” and so they discipline them. I believe that some kinds of discipline are more effective than others. But ultimately our task is to teach children self-control so they can navigate through life all by themselves. 

One way to improve behavior is to reinforce a behavior by giving rewards. 
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